Overthinking

I find that I bristle at the suggestion of “overthinking”. Is it not the brain’s design to think? But I was accused of overthinking by a person I trust and who I’ve had a long relationship with – my counsellor.

Don't Overthink It

Jack Donaghy – not my counsellor, but I love him all the same.

While I wasn’t talking with her about money at the time, I recognize a parallel in my finances. I tend to let endless possibilities (a.k.a. overthinking) limit me. Not just limit, I let it stop me.

Instead of looking at what I can do, something manageable and simple…

I expound upon it. I think it has to be bigger, more significant, routine, consistent, the new normal… I have to plan to replicate it and multiply it.

I look back and see my history of not doing it and I look forward and think of how I’ll have to make it up and I become overwhelmed by failure and fear of failure and fear of success…

Andy Stanley has a line he uses with regards to leadership, but it works in a lot of areas of life – do for one what you wish you could do for all. In other words, don’t let he fact that you can’t do something for everyone, stop you from doing something some one.

Baby steps.

Or

Take it one step at a time.

Try. Do the thing. One thing. Once. And don’t overthink it.

I’m going to give some money away this week. $35. I’ve pulled that number out of thin air. And I’m praying God will show me where to send it.

The End. [thinking, you’re done here]

I’m an adult

Expectations are the worst.

The four-year-old I used to nanny for didn’t think I was an adult. I could tell her I was over 18, I was married, and could drive, but for her there were only two categories: child and parent. Since I didn’t have kids myself, I was in the child category.

This four-year-old may have expected me to have kids at 27. When I was four, I probably expected the same. I’d like to think I’m a bit more informed now, but I still have expectations that are sometimes unrealistic. For example, I should be able to do X, and if I can’t, well then, somethings wrong with me.

I struggle with creating healthy habits, like taking multivitamins (or at least the recommended calcium supplements and vitamin D, here’s what Health Canada has to say about that). I always felt kind of guilty because I’d forget to take them and begrudging do what I was supposed to do, but I’ve learned that sometimes to succeed we need to be patient with ourselves, and give ourselves some self-compassion and grace.

Enter: Life Brand Gummy multivitamins.

There was not a better picture to represent this post than this. You're welcome.

There was not a better picture to represent this post than this. You’re welcome.

 

I have not found a more motivating way of taking vitamins, and as long as it helps me take them, which helps me stay healthy, it’s worth the cost. It’s like toothpaste – don’t skimp – your teeth are worth it.

Wisdom

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:5

Do you lack wisdom? Pray.

This post has no other purpose than to remind you to pray. Ask God to help you spend your money wisely. Afterwards, know that he has heard, and that he is with you always, even when you’re shopping, and his Spirit is known as Helper. You’re not alone in this.

Brunch

My husband and I got married in the spring (April, to be sort of exact). We were looking at ways to keep costs down on our wedding reception, and one of the things that made a big difference was getting married earlier in the day and having a lunch instead of a dinner for our guests.

When guests arrived, they got a little “welcome drink” that was a double-shot glass of apple cider and a cinnamon donut hole on top, and then for  hors d’oeurves they passed around little banana pancakes with chocolate sauce, and little french toasts with syrup. Or so I heard. We were out doing our photos with the wedding party at the time, but the food got rave reviews.

Pic of Cora's crepe

I found this picture on the internet. Thank you, photogenic stranger, for this pefect image of a Cora’s crepe.

Today is Valentine’s Day, and instead of going out for dinner (not to save money, but to save some of the stress of going out on a Friday night/Valentine’s Day which would ensure lots of crowds), we went out for brunch and had Cora’s. It’s a Canadian breakfast and lunch eatery that serves loads of fruit on their crepes and I got a crepe with Nutella.

It’s been a very special day so far, and just goes to show sometimes it’s thinking outside the box and a bit of chocolate-for-breakfast that can make a huge difference.